My name is Nthabiseng Mokoena. I am a Black intersex genderqueer feminist person in South Africa.

When you are born as an intersex person you are isolated, lied to, and given the impression that you are the only person like that, and something needs to be done to “fix” you: You need to be “normalized.” We are born into a world that says, “You do not exist, you were not supposed to exist, you cannot exist.” We've been erased from public discourse and from societal existence where children are taught that only males and females exist. This has not always been the case. Intersex people haven't always been invisible in Africa, South Africa, and Southern Africa as a whole.

I have met other intersex people with horrible stories that have made me realize that I'm not the only intersex person: there are thousands of us out there. The experiences are...

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